One of the most important things to do, is to just “LET GO”
By letting go, I mean to let go of ‘resistance’ to what you might be holding on to. This could be in regards to people, situations, politics etc. And please don’t confuse the term “letting go” with the meaning ‘not caring’. To let go of resistance means not being emotionally attached to things that you cannot, or do not have the right to change. We may not always agree with what people say or the things that they do, but it is not our job to judge, it is our job to just observe, allow and go about our business in a peaceful way. When we get caught up in a world of frustration….. there is very little peace in that.
As humans, we often get triggered by the things people say and the things people do. What most people aren’t aware of, is that the perceived issue is rarely anything to do with that person standing in front of you, but is most likely caused by something that hurt you or affected you from years ago. Sometimes this could stem as far back to the age of 7 or 8. What happens is because we are still holding onto this pain/emotional trauma, we act out by saying and doing things that can sometimes be very hurtful towards others and ourselves too. If we can identify where the actual trigger is coming from, we can heal ourselves and move forward and learn to live from a place of peace and love. It doesn’t mean we can not speak our truth or share what we feel to others, but speaking from a calm and well-balanced place will always bring a more productive result and will allow for more positive interactions.
It is the same when we overreact to incidents that are totally out of out control. For instance, the way people drive, people’s imperfections and even when our plans just don’t play out the way we expected. Often we get agitated and frustrated which causes our emotions to spiral. In these situations, we really need to take a step back; catch our thoughts; take a deep breath and excuse the expression, but “SHUT THE F**K UP”. Continuing to focus on things that have already happened or that you cannot change is in my opinion a total waste of good energy. If you understand and believe in “LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE”, then learn to release. Whatever emotion you’re emanating creates your experience.
It is hard to sometimes comprehend but always know that “People are doing the best they can”. We all have different upbringings, different educations, different life skills we have been taught. To lay blame on others I believe is just a way to deviate from looking at what is really bothering you.
We are all unique in our ways, which makes us so amazing. Make this journey about YOU and not others. Aim to LET GO of any expectations around others too, because having high expectations will pretty much always leave you feeling disappointed.
The more you let go and allow things to just flow, the more harmony you will have in your life. Look at how a river always flows in the same direction; see this as you walk through life. Holding onto resistance around things is like trying to force the river to flow in the opposite direction… this only happens when storms or even a tsunami comes. Do you really want tsunamis in your life?
The art of letting go is a process and does take practice and patience, but don’t they say the things in life that challenge us the most often bring us the most rewards. Just be mindful the next time you act out or overreact to someone or something, and aim to be more aware if someone acts out towards you. Don’t always take things personally because remember you don’t know what other people’s triggers are.
From the words of my good friend Judy… “Let go and let the cards fall as they may”.